Parenting is full of problems and challenges that you’d never even thought of before bringing your little one into this world.
It’s our job as parents to protect our children, but when they get to a certain age, we have to let go just a little bit and see how they survive in the big bad world.
We hope that when this time comes we’ve given them the skills and knowledge to cope with starting school. Nevertheless, for reasons out of our control, many children still suffer from bullying.
NOT just a part of growing up.
Bullying is such a common problem for children that many people accept it simply as a part of growing up – it’s not!
Explain to your child that this sort of behavior is unacceptable and that they don’t just have to put up with it!
How can you tell if your child is being bullied?
Sometimes children confide in their parents about bullying but often they don’t.
If your child’s behavior has become more irritable at home or they are increasingly trying to avoid going to school, talk to them. These are things could be a sign that a child is being bullied.
It may be difficult to speak to your child at first and they may be embarrassed but explain to them that the first step in solving a problem is to share it with you.
If this doesn’t work, often children find it easier to speak to a grandparent or a relative they don’t live with.
The important thing is to make sure they have the opportunity to talk to somebody when they are ready.
Ask how your child thinks you should deal with it.
Even though your first instinct will be to take control of the issue and make it all better, you should make sure you are including your child in deciding how to move forward with the issue.
Your child will be much more likely to confide in you in the future if they know you are going to listen to how they would like it to be dealt with.
Should I contact the School?
The first thing to do when your child is suffering from a bullying problem is to book a confidential appointment with the class teacher. He or she maybe aware of the problem or it might have gone on unnoticed.
You will naturally be concerned and even upset whilst trying to resolve bullying issues but it is important to try not to let emotions take over.
Stick to the facts- give examples of specific incidents and enquire what the school usually does in these situations.
Once you have agreed with the teachers on the best course of action, agree to meet back soon to discuss the progress.
What if that doesn’t work?
If speaking to the school doesn’t work, there are a number of resources available to both parents and children which can advise you on how to deal with more serious cases of bullying.
Whatever the situation, it is important that both you and your child know that you are not alone.
If your child is being bullied there is help out there
Just because you are a parent, you are not expected to know everything and there is always somebody to speak to. The following websites offer free advice to families that are suffering from bullying problems:
Family Lives have over 3 decades of providing guidance with problems that occur in everyday family life.
Kidscape is designed specifically to deal with issues of bullying and even offers a helpline for parents to discuss how to resolve issues of bullying.
Bullying is an awful problem for any child and it’s important to make sure that your child realises you are on their side and there to help.
If your child is being bullied there is help out there for you both.