The hospital clearly failed us, I didn’t want the vaginal birth after cesarian (VBAC) as I knew something was wrong but nobody listened to me, and I was right, look what happened to my baby.
In July/August 2008 just after my daughters first birthday, I found out I was expecting baby number 2. We were over the moon and couldn’t wait to give Ellie a little brother or sister.
Throughout the pregnancy, everything was fine, had no problems.
I found out at 20 weeks that we were having a little boy, we named him Thomas.
I had Ellie by emergency C-section but opted for a VBAC with Thomas, and it was agreed that if they or I felt there was something wrong, or I couldn’t do it, they would take me straight to the theatre room which I was happy with.
Anyway, I was booked in for induction on 11th March, so we had Ellie looked after, went up the hospital, but because they couldn’t break my waters, I was sent home which I shouldn’t have been.
Just as I got home, my waters broke
I went back to the hospital, early hours of the 12th my contractions were 3 minutes apart, but they stopped at 6 am. They took me to the delivery room and put me on the drip.
Around lunchtime I asked for an epidural, and as they were putting it in I told them I had pains in my tummy, but they weren’t contractions even though they tried telling me they were, I knew my body.
After the epidural, I slept for 5 hours.
Before the epidural, I was asking for a c section because I just knew that something wasn’t right, but I was refused every time, the theatre was full.
I didn’t want the VBAC
As the evening came and the midwives did the shift change they began to realise there was something wrong, my heartbeat was being monitored not Thomas.
I was rushed straight to theatre to have a crash C-section.
Next thing I know they were resuscitating my baby boy.
My womb had ruptured because of their mistake, and he had been starved of oxygen.
Early hours of the 13th and Thomas and my partner were taken to a different hospital, and I was left where I was.
I had a major operation to correct my womb, Thomas was in intensive care, and I had not seen him.
Eventually, I got taken to the same hospital my baby was in to recover so that I could be with him.
A few days later Thomas was taken back to the hospital he was born at and had to have brain scans.
We were told he had slight bruising that would go
But they left the notes with us, and my partner looked and found that in fact, he was brain damaged.
After many scans, tests, and everything else he was diagnosed with cerebral palsy.
After a few months he also started fitting, so was then diagnosed with epilepsy.
He has been on all sorts of medication since birth and will be for the rest of his life due to the hospital’s negligence.
Thomas is now 3 and a half and is a happy young man and attends a school that is designed to help children with severe disabilities.
But we will constantly have a battle with his health and making sure he has everything he needs.
From day one we decided to take things further.
We would sue the hospital
It took three years, but eventually, we got somewhere and got granted enough money to get a big enough house so that it could be adapted to having downstairs facilities such as bathroom and bedroom.
We aren’t always going to be able to carry him up the stairs to bed and for a bath.
I couldn’t believe a VBAC had caused all this and the saddest thing was knowing that it all could have been avoided.
After we found our house that we would settle down in, that would be perfect for our family, the paperwork went through, the G.M.C. sorted it, and we are now living in our house and doing lots of work to make it perfect for Thomas and his needs.
We now have transport too, which is wheelchair friendly and Thomas has come along a lot since we have been able to get him what he should have and get his senses going, we have noticed such a difference.
The hospital let us down, I didn’t want the VBAC as I knew something was wrong but nobody listened to me.
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