He was my mother’s friend, the family friend, my friend or so we thought because he touched me while I was sleeping, I was 16 years old.
I’d been out with my friends and my boyfriend, I had walked home at 11pm, I knocked on the door but it was locked, there was no answer,
After 5 minutes of knocking and shouting, I decided to go to our friends flat and stay there the night.
He had been a family friend since before I was born.
I thought he was safe, that he would never do anything to hurt me.
I trusted him.
We sat in his flat, he smoked a joint whilst I watched TV and ate junk food.
I nodded off on his sofa just after midnight.
By 1:30am I was jolted awake as I felt something touching my pubic area.
He touched me while I had been sleeping
I froze in terror.
I heard a shuffling behind me as I had woke, I turned round to see the family friend sat on the floor behind me.
I turned back round and noticed my jeans had been opened.
He left the room in silence.
I nodded back off, but it happened again.
I curled up in a ball and I went back to sleep, it didn’t happen again.
I knew it was wrong, but I just left it at that.
I was too afraid to tell anyone that he touched me.
I went home at 6am that day and acted as normal as I could be.
I still visited this friend for about a year after this had happened but then he moved and we lost contact.
It wasn’t until I was nearly 18 when I could hold it in no more and I told my mam.
She was distraught, she said she wished she had stayed up a little later that night so she could have let me in.
She blamed herself
We didn’t bother with informing the police as it was my word against his and to be honest I didn’t want to see him ever again.
He touched me and it still haunts me, what if he had gone further?
I’m now 22 and still haven’t seen or spoken to him.
It hasn’t had any long-term damage on me but I never realised how wrong it actually was until reading your blog.
He touched me and invaded my personal space, it just goes to show you need to be careful of who you trust.
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