The happiest person that you see all day, may be the one who cries themselves to sleep every night
Isn’t it strange how we perceive people, even those we believe we know well. I have a friend who is always happy, always the life and soul of the party, always uplifting to be around as her positivity is infectious.
But this upbeat and happy friend cries themselves to sleep at night.
I have always enjoyed her company so when she invited me for coffee I obliged and over coffee she confided in me. She has had to visit the GP after weeks of feeling suicidal, she can not pinpoint the cause, yet her low moods are making her life unbearable, she has been prescribed antidepressants and talking therapy.
Her positive and happy trait isn’t a trait at all, it’s a persona she has learned to adapt perfectly over the years, she is one of many happy people who cries themselves to sleep at night and has asked me to share her secret in the hope it may help someone else speak out.
I don’t know why her revelation shocked me, I do this myself most days. I spend my days supporting mothers with mental health problems and offer advice on day to day worries that they face as moms. I always remain positive and helpful, yet underneath I feel anything but positive or happy yet I hide my emotions and save my tears for bedtime.
The happy person who cries themselves to sleep at night
Like me she does not want to burden her family and friends with her problems, she feels weak and a failure and doesn’t want people to pity her, but as I wrote previously do not confuse my bad days as a sign of weakness as those are the days I am the strongest person I can be, I reassured her that depression does not mean she is weak or a failure.
How many more people who we think of as “happy people” actually cry at night?
In a survey of over 10,000 respondents from all over the world, researchers found that happiness is one of people’s most important if not the most important goal.
Should we fake it till we make it? I think this is a very dangerous game to play as depression does and will creep up and invade your life to the exact where you have no control. If you’re finding yourself faking a smile every day then its time to speak out.
Why do people pretend or act extremely happy when they are actually sad or depressed? Because they don’t want their friends and family having to deal with their negative crap, but the biggest lesson I have learned is your real friends do care about your crap and they are ready and willing to listen and help.
Are you a happy person who cries themselves to sleep at night? If so when are you going to share that with someone you trust?