I received an inbox on Facebook from a mother who is a member of my Facebook support group asking me if I can teach her how to fix a broken relationship. I may well be an online agony aunt to hundreds of moms but without a detailed background, it’s always difficult to offer relationship advice.
The mother wrote back with more details and she decided she would like her question to be written into an anonymous blog post in the hope of finding advice and support from YOU, the blog readers.
How To Fix A Broken Relationship
I don’t know where it has all gone wrong, I thought we were happy.
OK so I am a little naive as of course, deep down I knew things were not as they used to be.
When we first met it was amazing, but that was 8 years ago, we were young, free and fell instantly in love.
Years later we are raising 3 kids and he’s working twelve hour days, 6 days a week, just to pay the rent and put food on the table.
We never spend time together anymore.
He comes in from work, eats and falls asleep.
I get angry at him as I am stuck raising the kids and dealing with everything to do with the home, he is hardly home and when he is he does nothing to help me.
He is always so tired, he doesn’t want to go to the park with the kids or spend any time with the kids and me.
We argue a lot, mainly about money.
I accuse him of cheating, but I don’t think he is, I am just frustrated that we don’t have any activity in the bedroom anymore, he’s too tired.
I feel so unloved.
I need to know how to fix a broken relationship as I do not want to lose the man I love.
The father of my children and my whole world.
How do we get over this hurdle?
I try to talk to him, he brushes it off, says nothing is wrong.
But it is wrong, I feel like I am losing him.
I know we need to talk more, spend quality time together but with 3 young kids it’s so hard to do.
I think we are stuck in a rut.
I don’t know what to do.
I need to know how to fix a broken relationship before it gets to the point where it can not be repaired.
A friend suggested I leave him, to give him a shock of reality, but I am scared he will welcome that chance to go.
Please help me.
Can you offer any advice to this lonely mother of 3?