I feel like my heart is being torn two, I know my dad is cheating on my mom, but I feel so confused on how to handle this situation. I’m a grown woman, married with children of my own, but I visit my parents at least twice a week, they don’t live far from me, just a 15-minute drive. I am very close to both my parents. I don’t favor one over the other.
I am finding it so hard to be in the same room as my dad at the moment, I am so angry and disappointed with him. Ths isn’t the first time he has cheated on my mom, but I had hoped he had learned his lesson after he saw what he put my mom through.
I know my dad is cheating on my mom
I have known for about 3 weeks now and the longer I keep his secret the harder it becomes to confront him or tell my mom. Dad had come home from work and gone to bed as he normally does as he works a night shift. I had called around to see mom and have a coffee while the kids were at school.
Mom had no milk so had gone to the shop at the corner of her road and as I was cutting the cake I had brought with me when my phone beeped, it was a text from my husband but because I had no credit on my phone I couldn’t text back. I had to reply as it was important and so I went on the hunt for moms phone, she must have had it in her handbag, so I went to find dads.
Dad was snoring when I quietly pushed his bedroom door open, his mobile phone was son the bedside table, he always left it there as he set an alarm to wake him later in the afternoon. I picked up his phone and walked onto the landing. I was about to start writing a text to my husband when the mobile vibrated and a test message popped onto the screen.
I recognized the ladies name, it was a woman he worked with. The message could not have been taken the wrong way. It was clear the pair of them were having an affair, he had deleted his inboxes, but he had forgotten to delete those sat in his sent box and the realization hit me, my dad is cheating on my mom.
Do I tell me my mom or confront my dad?
I don’t know is I should tell my mom?I don’t know if I should confront my dad? I know this will devastate my mom and it’s right before Christmas but I feel sick when I see my dad showing my mom affection, I want to scream at him that he’s a liar and a cheat.
The text messages clearly stated that were enjoying more than innocent flirting. He has also seen her outside of work, he had told mom he was working when he wasn’t. He has left an item at her house so he’s even been there.
My mom has had a bad year with her health and although she’s on the meds I fear that if I tell her my dad is cheating it will knock her backward. It also breaks my heart to think I would have to tell her something so hurtful.
What would you do if you were in my situation?
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