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My daughter is being bullied and I feel so useless. My daughter is 12 in three weeks. She is kind, caring and has the heart of a angel. I could not be more proud of her. Her dad and I we call her princess sweet pea as she’s our only girl. A title she relishes. Unfortunately this crown isn’t the only one she wears.
A few weeks back after a history ill tell you all about in a moment my daughter was named the * most bullied child of year 7 ever in the school*
What can you do but cry?
And that’s exactly what I did. My daughter started secondary school in September, she was so excited and hoping to make new friends. A little gossipy chatterbox she would have been perfect to get to know. One girl instantly disliked her and they bullied my daughter from then on.
While I was at home putting all her new certificates in a special folder for her my girl was suffering in silence. Remarks, threats, actual violence. She said nothing, but she changed. After a couple weeks she stopped laughing. She looked sad. I talked to her and she said nothing was wrong. Her dad tried, the same. So I left it a little longer thinking it was teething issues with a new school.
But I was to find out that my daughter is being bullied.
Finally one day I saw the bruises.
She was in pain
There is no words for how angry I was. The next day I kept her home and we phoned the school. The head of year saw us. My daughter explained everything. This girl had picked away at my girl from the start. Singling her out and when my girl didn’t play along it became violent.
Hitting her, kicking her, knocking her over.
Some of it in front of teachers who weren’t paying attention. The school was horrified. The girls parents were horrified. She was severely dealt with. But this girl opened the door for bullies and they all swooped in on my girl. We are now in may.
Ive been up to that school countless times. Because they got to her through Facebook I took it off her. They got to her at break time, she was kept inside of the school and away from them, they got to her at dinner time instead in the school canteen.
At home time I had to walk for over a hour to meet her out to stop a gang attacking her.
And believe me if one hair on her head is ever touched I will be going to prison.
Why do they single my girl out?
My Daughter Is Being Bullied For Being A Virgin
Because shes a virgin, because she doesn’t want a boyfriend. Because she’s never kissed a boy.
Because her beautiful hair is waist length and they hate it.
Because her eyes are big and blue.
Because she works hard and helps teachers, she wants to be something when she leaves.
If you ask my girl about her feelings she will shrug it off like its nothing. She asks me to make her beautiful. She begs me for make up to hide her big eyes. She wants her hair cut the way they dictate. She asks me how to change herself.
She breaks my heart every time she comes home nearly every day and I see that look.
We tried to change schools but she didn’t want that. She loves her school and they are doing everything they can. She has been fighting back lately, sticking up for herself. I’ve drummed it into her that if they think she’s weak they will do it more so stand up and roar like a lion and let them know their reign is over.
I’ve told her that she never needs to change for anyone or anything
That she’s still so young, and these things will all pass. But that doesn’t mean she should wait. Never accept bruises. Never accept names. Never accept false friends and negative opinions. The people that have them and use them are worth nothing to her.
They don’t know her. They just think they do. I would love an hour with these haters of hers. Just one hour. To talk to them. To find out how they would feel if someone did that to them. To make them feel how my girl does. Just a taste. I hate haters. All they stand for.
What they mean to my girl and for the effects they never see. When they are gone their words remain. My daughter is being bullied and feel so useless to help her.
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