If you are a member of my Facebook mums group then you may have seen this latest debate on smacking children. There were some very strong views, so I thought it best to bring it here to the blog, so they could fight it out.
A tap on the hand for a good reason is okay but no further. I try not too if I don’t have to. I was hit as a child and what started as a smack here and there went further and to the point where it’s damaged my relationship with my parents – Kayleigh
My kids get a tapped hand or bum not really slapped hard and they only get that if they have been really bad or done something dangerous and I’ve tried all other means of punishment. I don’t believe in smacking a child if they have hit someone that just doesn’t make sense to me if you’re telling a child off for smacking someone then you smack them it’s a bit hypocritical and there just learning nothing from it – Lisa
I think smacking advocates smacking and I don’t personally agree with it, there are far more effective ways to discipline a child – Steph
Nope far much better ways! My husband smacks and I say to him how about I smack you, it would be classed as domestic abuse. Also if you smack someone in the street it is assault. Also if someone else smacked your child you would go crazy at them, so why does it make it any better you smacking your child? It just shows the child it’s OK to hit the ones you love! Why punish with violence? Punish with knowledge! – Rachel
A little tip on the hand is okay. I’ve done it a few times but still feel time out. Taking a toy away or turning telly off is way more effective – Gina
Only when they’ve done something really bad but i usually just send them to their rooms. I was smacked as a child and it’s done me no harm so I don’t particularly agree when people say it ‘ advocates ‘ smacking – Emily
How can you teach a child not to hit if you hit them as punishment? Kids lead from example. So no I don’t agree with any form of hitting or tapping. I was hit as a child for punishment all it did was made me scared of my dad. – Jasmine
I agree with smacking children. I’m not going to apologise for my opinion it’s also a last resort or used as a shock tactic in my house. I was smacked as a child and personally don’t see why so many are afraid of smacking their children. I was smacked off my parents and I never ever hit anyone else. I also understood that I was only smacked when naughty. – Jess
I hate the word ‘smack’ ‘smacking’ sounds awful! We use much more effective ways than that for example there would be no TV at bedtime, no tablet or no Xbox. But It’s up to the individual parent I don’t judge people because they do! Just hate the word – Rosie
Beating is abuse… no 2 ways about it. But I think smacking children is fine. My parents are nearly 60. We are an old fashioned family and believe in children behaving and having manners – Jess
I’ve popped mine on the butt before, but only after talking and counting to 3 has no effect. I’ve even popped her on the cheek once when she was back-talking me really bad and being disrespectful. I don’t in public, because I don’t need their judgement or opinions. – Amanda
I don’t like smacking children. Or tapping or whatever you like to call it personally. If an adult does something you don’t like you don’t smack them one, so why should you a child, who cannot even defend themselves? I could list 100 reasons why I dislike it to be honest. – Sarah
There is a difference between a smack or tap and beating your child, I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. I was smacked and so was my partner. Has it done us any harm, no and we get along with and respect our parents. Kids get away with murder these days because they aren’t punished for their actions, just my opinion – Kate
My children know if they get ‘smacked’ it’s because they have either been very naughty or done something dangerous, so my children don’t go around randomly smacking or hitting people they know parents “smack” if the child has been very naughty. – Emily
I wasn’t smacked as a child and I am a nice, well mannered adult. My daughter is not smacked and is polite, nice and behaves well.(usually, as well as a 3 year old can be…) to be honest I don’t think it has anything to do with the person you become, its just a coincidence that people who were/were not smacked are nice/nasty – Sarah
I don’t smack my child as I think that if it comes to that you have lost control. I believe good behaviour is about respect. I also don’t see how you can teach a child not to hit and then hit them when they are naughty, it is a mixed message. – Morwenna
What are your own views on smacking children?
Is it ever needed?