I have written an anonymous blog post for the blog because I feel guilty, I have a loving husband but I want to feel special and I want more from my husband. I also want to know if any other wives feel this way or if it’s just me.
So December 2015 saw our 16 year anniversary together and later this year we have been married for 11 years. We are the best of friends, we almost never argue and we have wonderful children together. But I want to feel special. He is my soul mate and I am his, he is never violent towards me and he tells me he loves me all the time and sex is not an issue.
Despite all this he is absolutely rubbish at romance and I crave it so bad.
I want to feel special is that wrong?
Some might say that I should count myself lucky that I have the faithful loving husband who loves me so much, which I do but I just want to feel more appreciated.
I want to feel special as right now it feels like we are best friends that live together and have sex. I feel like I work for him, cleaning the house and cooking his meals.
I try to instigate romance by buying him little gifts, magazines, alcohol or even if it’s just a can of monster energy drink or a new top or something like that but he never ever buys me anything. Actually, I lie, I got a bunch of half dead flowers once from the discounted section that was 10p as they were in really bad shape.
We never celebrate Valentines day but last year I asked him if just this once we could do something for valentines. Two weeks before Valentines day he arranged to take me out, it was lovely and the place he chose was great.
I thought lucky me getting a surprise night out and we are going out for valentines too but alas it was not to be as he took me out two weeks early to save money.
I was so upset as I specifically asked him if we could do “Valentines day”.
Am I selfish because I want to feel special?
We bumped into a mutual friend whilst out and he was explaining how he and his wife are off to New York on Saturday which he has arranged as a surprise for her, she knows they are going away but she thinks they are driving somewhere.
I felt like I had been punched in the stomach as I was so jealous that he had arranged this for his wife, and my husband can’t even buy me a pack of chewing gum.
I have told him how I feel and he says he can’t afford it, or he doesn’t know how to be romantic or he never knows what to get me. If he can’t think ahead and save a few quid her or there and I mean 16 years together and if he doesn’t know me now then he never will.
I don’t want to be in a romance less marriage, but I don’t want to lose him as I do love him so very much, I know he wont ever change but why is fair for me sacrifice what I crave so badly.
Is it wrong that I want to feel special?
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