Anonymous Agony Aunt Blog Post
Is it so bad that I want to sleep with my stepdad? Is it wrong of me to even be thinking of it?
It’s not as bad as it sounds.
The man is a friend of mine, that’s how he met my mother in the first place. He’s the father of a friend of mine and I knew him a long time before I introduced him to my mum.
I used to stay over at his daughter’s house quite often as we were good friends at school, I never knew that years later I would fall in love with him.
He and my mother were introduced along the way and as both were single by this time, sparks flew and they ended up dating.
By this time I was a teenager and so even though my mother married him and he became my legal stepdad, he has never been or acted anything like a dad to me.
He and my mother separated over a year ago now, my mother started seeing someone else soon after, and he was left devastated. They are still married and I am not aware that either of them has talked about divorce. They have no contact with each other.
I stayed in touch with him, I am still friends with his daughter, so see him quite often. I have been to see him in his new flat, without his daughter being there and we became friends. I don’t know when I developed feelings for him, it just sort of happened.
I am not the teenager anymore, I am a grown women in my early twenties and although he and my mother are well and truly over, on a piece of paper, he is still my step dad.
Is it wrong that I want to sleep with my stepdad?
I know he feels the same way.
We have discussed starting a relationship but I feel guilty.
How would my mother feel?
I don’t want to hurt anybody.
I know it would make her and other family members feel uncomfortable, but maybe in time, they would come around to the idea?
He tells me that he’s not my dad, he’s no relation to me. He and my mother are no longer together and he and I are both adults and both single.
I want to be with this man, he’s a great person and I feel we would truly be happy together.
I want to sleep with my stepdad so much, the sexual tension between us is electric and it’s so hard to keep walking away.
But why does it feel wrong?
What advice do you have?