I spent years trying to make him love me. I thought he was my soul mate. But he never loved me back, not really. Just how do you make someone love you?
For eleven years I stayed with a man who treated me badly.
All I ever wanted was for him to love me the way that I loved him.
Love isn’t something that you can invent, it’s a real feeling.
Can a relationship survive without love? I’m not sure it can
What I have learned is that love and hate are very similar.
Even after I caught him cheating on me I gave him another chance, and then another. I don’t have enough fingers on my hand to count the amount of second chances he had been given.
He was abusive and a cheat yet still I loved him.
I gave him three children, each time thinking it would bring us closer together.
“I don’t love you” he would snarl at me
But still I loved him.
You can’t make someone love you any more than you can make yourself love someone you don’t
I was needy, I needed him. I was so used to the control he had over me that I didn’t know how to function without his rules.
I remember lying in bed at night, with tears streaming down my face, begging, praying that one day he would love me.
Maybe he did love me, all those times he hurt me and said sorry I wondered if somewhere in there, he did care.
I can’t help but feel sorry for women who come to me and ask me how they can make someone love them. They are head over heels in love with man/women who doesn’t love them back.
They are willing to play second best and be treated with lack of respect, all because of love.
I tell them honestly that you can’t make someone love you and if their heart isn’t in it 110% then they need to let them go.
Why be with someone who does not love you?
It’s time to be honest with yourself. It may well hurt to know they don’t love you back and it feels like you are grieving somewhat but you have to accept this and move on.
I stayed with him for so long, hoping that things would change.
A man who hurts you or cheats on you doesn’t love you.
A man who has a wife and promises to leave her doesn’t love you.
Someone who really loves you, a person you truly deserve is someone who is respectful and faithful and would move mountains to get to you. They are interested in your views and will compromise with your wishes and needs.
Why settle for anything less?
You can’t make someone love you so stop trying and allow someone who will a chance.
Ok so he/she may appear to be the love of your life and you may think that you can’t live without them, please get real. If they don’t love you then they are using you. Think of the negatives here and don’t let the love hearts blind your sight.
You can live without them and you will be happier in the long run.
We all love and lose at some point; it’s rather like a game. If you don’t win the first time round the board then you can choose a different colour counter and play again, only better this time. game again.
Don’t waste years of your life-like I did thinking you can make someone love you.
In the end I was bitter and regretful.
True love doesn’t hurt.