Feeling inadequate about your life and accomplishments is something we all feel from time to time, there are many reasons for this but if your stuck on the hamster wheel of feeling that everyone has it better or easier than you, it can be detrimental to your self-esteem and prevents you from achieving your dreams.
Are you setting yourself up for failure?
Are you setting your standards too high?
Are your goals unrealistic?
You may struggle to become a career women if you’re a single mom with no childcare support but you can take on a part-time job or a volunteer role, both will do wonders for your CV in the coming years when you can work towards your dream career. Yes, you can begin working towards that dream right now.
What are you actually doing about it?
Are you actively working towards making changes?
What changes do you need to make?
If having more money is your goal are you looking at ways you could save? Have you written down your incomings and outgoings? Do you even know what shape your finances are in or have you become trapped in the negative mindset that nothing will help you get out of debt or you will never save enough for that dream holiday?
The word I dislike the most is can’t
We all have two options in life, we can either lay in the bed we made, or we can get off our ass and change the sheets
Stop making excuses
Your feeling inadequate because you’re overwhelmed and have no faith in yourself.
We all use excuses to postpone doing things, this can be due to lack of motivation, being disorganised, not having a proper plan in place and even fear can stop us following our dreams and succeeding.
It can all feel too overwhelming
A plan is so much easier to follow when its brown down into bite size chunks.
Feeling inadequate doesn’t mean you’re not good enough it means you need to reassess your goals and have a firm plan in place and the determination to carry it through.
What are your goals?
- To make friends?
- To save money?
- To find a job?
- To move home?
- To lose weight?
How can you succeed if you don’t even know what it is you want?
Most mothers are feeling inadequate
Most mothers feel inadequate because they see other mothers living life as if everything is sunshine and roses, I can assure you they don’t have some magical wand, they are struggling just as you are, but they know if they want to change something, then they have to stop procrastinating and go out there and get it.
In the time you have thrown a tantrum, ranted to your partner that “so and so” has it easy and you have cried in sheer frustration, you could have written a step by step plan of how you’re going to get the thing you really want.
Mothers are often left feeling inadequate as it appears they get nothing done, although they are run off their feet all day, there are just not enough hours in the day. Organization and prioritising tasks go a long way to accomplishing a productive day. Learn to delicate tasks and ask for help.
You’re not inadequate if the ironing isn’t done or the sink is full of dirty dishes. Spending time with your child and taking care of your own basic needs is more important than a showroom home.
You don’t need to be rescued, you got this shit covered
Have faith in yourself, stop relying on others to make you happy, you have to make your own happiness.
Make your plan today and break it down into small manageable steps and then start working towards each step, you will see progress being made and remember you need to crawl before you can run.
Save money for a holiday plan
- What money do I have coming up – check bank account
- What money do I have going out – check bank account
- What bills can I reduce or get rid of – check comparison sites
- Can I make any extra cash
- How much can I save each week/month
- How long will it take me to save £££
- Where am I going on holiday this year – cut out the holiday brochure picture for motivation
If it takes a year or 3 it makes no difference, you have solved a problem and achieved a dream, you will be having that holiday you have dreamed of after all.
What plan are you making today?
What are you feeling inadequate about?