If I had a pound for every time someone asked me, can he change? I would be a very rich lady.
The truth is I have no idea if he will change or not.
It normally comes after her partner has cheated on her, lied to her or been abusive.
I am so sorry and I will never do it again, I love you and I will do anything to keep you, soon follow and the women are left in turmoil.
She loves him and she wants to believe he is sorry and desperately wants to see him change.
But can he change?
The trouble is no matter how many times he promises too, the only person who can change someone is the person themselves, they have to really want to change.
I spent many years in an abusive relationship, for eleven years I believed him when he promised to stop hurting me, to get help and stupidly became his little play puppet.
The problem was not so much him, but me. I allowed him to hurt me in a way, as I stayed with him. I didn’t stand up and say enough is enough, I deserve better than this.
When he cheated, I allowed him to beg for forgiveness, until the second time, the third time and so on.
I kept quiet and yes through fear but I am not talking about domestic abuse here, I am referring to non-abusive relationships. If there is any violence or abuse the relationship needs to end, without a doubt.
Can an abusive man change? That would be a separate topic altogether.
Can he change a friend asked me the other day, after moaning about her long-term partner? My answer was why he should, you’re the perfect doormat.
You stay home and take care of the kids, keep the house nice and cook his meals, why does he want to change anything, he has a nice little life.
If your partner has cheated will he cheat again?
Are you to blame for his affair? I don’t think one a cheat always a cheat, I do believe some men and some women stray for various reasons, but once they realise what they are truly about to lose, it brings them back to reality.
An affair can bring a couple closer together, just as it can break a relationship or leave both parties bitter and resentful.
We all have faults, we have all made mistakes, we all have things about ourselves we would like to change but we need motivation, determination and desire to make these changes.
Can he change? Yes, of course, we all can with hard work and support.
The question is does he want too?
Has your man ever changed his ways for you?
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